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Parenting Tip # 213

For rewarding good behavior/penalizing bad behavior as it relates to sibling rivalry, try this: Put a designated number of dollar bills in a jar. Every time your children go to war and can?t work it out by themselves, take a dollar out of the jar. Put a dollar into the jar when they go out of their way to be kind to one another or are able to work out a conflict. At the end of a designated time period, the children get to split what is left in the jar. If their behavior is so bad that the money runs out, then dip into their allowances.

Parenting Today's Adolescent: Helping Your Child Avoid the Traps of the Preteen and Teen Years
Copyright 1998 by Dennis and Barbara Rainey. Used by permission of Thomas Nelson, Inc., Publishers.